The middle of this statement that truly resounds with me; I understand and have for a long time that people would rather wallow than improve – because it is how it has been. Change is scarier than being healthy physically, mentally, emotionally, or even spiritually. Moreover, as one who has been studying leadership for quite some time, the final part of this statement why leaders rise as leaders, makes complete since. Leaders guide, coach, and train people. Hopefully it is to be the best they can be – but sometimes a rise to power is through an agenda of his own purpose — to communicate his vision and have the people live up to “potential” of their agenda.
HOWEVER, the idea that there is never a right time … rings loud and clear, and offers perspective on change. What and who defines a right time? No one! Hence, it never will be the right time. Coming to the conclusion that a difficult “thing” needs to happen and the taking action and making that “thing” happen is called life. We are not to go through life alone, yet day to day – most of us plod through on our own, because for whatever reason this change – requiring difficulty – is most often as a response to the behavior of another. So where does that leave us, sad, unhappy, fearful, untrusting, depressed, confused, worried, anxious and ultimately – alone. So was the “thing” really that bad – is being alone worse. NO! Difficult decisions are just that difficult – healing can only begin when the “thing” is removed. This thing might be physical thing, it might be an attitude, it might be another person, it does not matter – there will never be a right time to do something difficult – yet often it happens much too late!
Question: What is your thing? What are you going to do about it?
I am not a therapist, but I can be your Life Coach…if there is some way I can help – I will.